OK I know I joined in last week and it was pretty long so I'll keep this one a bit shorter. Next episode of OBEM focuses on pain. Having been through 2 labours and managed the pain differently each time I am always a little sceptical of first time pregnant women who are adamant that they will have a natural pain relief free birth and just 'breath through' it! I honestly believe that it is best to not over plan your birth and just go with it. On both occasions I chose to listen to advice and remain calm. This served me well as both labours went smoothly.
With my daughter I was so freaked out by the noises of the ladies on the induction ward who didn't seem to cope well with the early stages (I heard one midwife tell one lady repeatedly that she would normally be at home during this stage) that I vowed to not panic and when my contractions started I did actually begin some odd breathing to see me through. Bizarrely this did work and I managed on just this, some paracetamol and a tens machine for some time. I only accepted pethadine after my concerns that I was getting knackered.
With my twins I had little choice but to have an epidural so I don't really know how well I would have coped with the pain but I do recall the midwife telling the anaesthetist that I had a high pain threshold. I don't know how true that is but I am certain had it not been in mine and babies best interests I would have not had an epidural. I am grateful for it though due to the after problems I had.
I think it is best to be realistic when it comes to the pain. It's going to hurt. Obviously. Deal with what you can and accept whatever you need to help you through.
One Born Every Minute, this Wednesday 11th at 9pm on Channel 4.